Findom or Financial Domination, at its simplest form, is the act of a submissive giving money, gifts, or financial control to a dominant. It’s a consensual exchange of power through financial tribute between two parties. Findom at its most elevated form can be a ritual of surrender where the transfer of funds becomes a sacred transaction.
To anyone outside the loop, it all seems like a very absurd kink. People pay for that? Willingly? Repeatedly, yes. They love it too, more than that. They crave it. The beauty is that it isn’t just about the money. It’s about what the money represents. Access. Power. Ego. Security. Freedom. Thrills.
Some tributes are casual, $10 here, a coffee there. I’m partial to a yummy silent send on Cashapp ($lisalazuli) myself. Those sends are valuable as they represent a submissive giving what they can when they don’t have a lot. Or it’s a consistent way of showing appreciation for subs who deem themselves “community subs”. Other tributes have a deeper meaning when they come from long-term or “owned” submissives: surrender, loyalty, ritual, and control. The level of vulnerability and trust that builds and bonds a sub to a Domme is beautiful and my preferred dynamic.
Critics may dismiss Findom as a scam. A kink born from capitalism. But look closer, dig deeper, and find a psychological exchange that merges sexuality with economics and vulnerability. Yes, it is about money, but it’s also about agency, control, desire, and the strangely spiritual experience of choosing to let go.
I’m not trying to attempt to sanitize Findom, after all, it is sex work, no debating that. This essay is for the kink curious and listeners who stumbled on my podcast and think, “WTF is going on??”. My goal is to bring you into the real world of the financially devoted before we get lost in the fantasy that is Uncovered Conversations and WLZA.
Let’s keep going, shall we?
Power Dynamics in Findom
It’s easy to assume that in a Findom dynamic, the Domme holds all the power. She commands, she receives. She decides who is worthy of her time, her words, and her control.
The truth is a bit more complex. Power in Findom isn’t static. It moves. It pulses. It reflects. It’s a dance in front of a mirror. It’s two souls unraveling in different directions. I’m getting a little carried away but my point is, the exchange is electric.
If you’re reading this and you’re getting curios remember one thing: Submission is not weakness. It’s strength in devotion. It can be your super power if you surrender to the right Domme.
Love Bug 101
My personal Domme style is very ritualistic. It’s exciting that way. Something about someone obeying my every word and command gives me a major rush. Creative expression through persona and performance is my jam. Controlling someone as their most exalted is a confidence boost I can’t begin to explain. It’s not all fun and freaky deeky for me, though. I care deeply for my owned subs. I force them to budget, to exercise, to read more. I inspire growth and discipline in my Little Love Bugs, just ask them.
Anyone who wishes to serve me must first complete a small devotional act: a tribute of either $33 to one of my preferred payment methods or a gift from my wishlist. This offering is their first step into sacred territory. It signals seriousness, sets the tone, and builds trust.
From there, they take a questionnaire, which is lighthearted on the surface but is intentionally designed to help me see them more clearly before we go deeper. After that, we talk budget. Why? Because a financially intelligent submissive is one that never ceases to give. And that’s what I need: sustained devotion, not a one-time offering.
Before I consider them for anything further, I require the purchase of three items:
A lapis lazuli crystal-for obvious reasons and also due to what the crystal represents.
a green pen- my favorite color and the color of abundance
a blue notebook or journal, the same color as the crystal
I do this because obedience starts with the details. Can you follow directions? Without shortcuts? Without excuses? That’s what I want to know. I won’t reveal all my secrets, but I will say this: The path to pleasing me is precise.
My ideal Little Love Bug embodies the following qualities:
They give consistently. If you haven’t sent in 2 days, are you really MINE?
Repost and interact with my content, which includes this Substack. Amplification is adoration.
Keep a devotional journal. Use the blue notebook to record your dreams, urges, and tasks that you’ve received. Something about looking back on how far we’ve come is so rewarding.
Respond promptly. A delay in urgency is an insult to my existence. I don’t respond to laziness.
These are a few of my rules. What can I say? I’m ceremonial. Energy between my Love Bugs and I must be maintained or the connection withers. The gifts become empty, and the ritual loses its charge. These commands aid in the maintenance of the dynamic in my opinion.
Final Thoughts from an Oracle
When you choose to serve me, you elevate your purpose and show the world that true power comes from knowing when to give and when to receive. If you are willing to walk this path of servitude and devotion, then come see The Oracle. I have the power to transform you.